Please keep things positive. Best advise I believe is to try out different sites. Find what works well for you. If you don't like it, don't go back and try another site. Nothing says you only have to play on 1 site. At one time, I played on about 6 different turn-based game sites.
Ketchup: Do you remember chessed.com? It was the first online site where I played chess, or any online game. I do not even know how many years have passed since it died. I have been on BK for too long, I guess...