harley: of people putting a lot of games in the waiting room and then resigning halfway through them, You say, Why try to make sense of it?! It takes all kinds, I'm sure they had their reasons even if we can't understand them.

You're advocating complacency. You're saying, "the hell with etiquette, polite behavior, principles...people should be allowed to do anything they please, and no-one should ever complain about it, because the perpetrators must have their reasons."

that's a blanket excuse for any behavior at all. Hitler, Qadaffi, Jeffrey Dahmer...they all had their reasons. i'm not equating the behavior of game-bailers with the behavior of those three, but the principle is the same. if certain codes of behavior are simply ignored, a civilization, be it that of a country or of a gaming site, falls apart.

it's possible to go too far in one's efforts to avoid conflict, Lady, and i think that's what You're doing here.