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Bernice: when you have someone..CONSTANTLY telling you that you are worthless,that nobody will EVER love you,that you will be nothing without him,that if you leave,he WILL find you and he WILL kill you...a person hears that for so long,they WILL start to believe it...top that with being hit for no other reason but that HE had a bad day,the constant put downs and belittling...my mum told me once that it took her 18 years to build up my self esteem and took him less then one year to completely destroy it. It is VERY easy for you to sit there and say,oh,just leave,oh there are places to go....you know what happened to me Bernice one night when I did try to leave?? do you KNOW!? well,he caught me outside of our apartment,grabbed my head and slammed it repeatedly into a friggin wall untill I almost passed out...thats what happed the first time I tried to leave Bernice...he told me if I did it again,he would kill me...wanna know sometime..I believed he would do it to. You can sit there and you can judge all you want to but untill you KNOW,untill you have been through it,do NOT judge that woman
anastasia: I CAN JUDGE AND WILL....................why??? because I have been there, same as you and your mother....she didnt leave and you were brought up in that sort of violent situation and you accept it as norm.....let me tell you ....when I had my head stomped, arms slashed with knives, punched in face until black and blue, only to wake up the next morning to hear..."I'm sorry".....yeah well mate so am I.....I'm outta here..... I heard the "You leave and I will find you and I will kill you and the 2 kids".....great, then do it.
Know what?????................they are gutless when they are in front of other people......on their own they are the strongest, because they can beat a woman half to death. GUTLESS.
Now don't you tell me not to judge, I have been there and done that.....IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN ....to me.
I got the horrible disease out of my system, and so can everybody else. If a person hasnt got the intestinal fortitude to stand up and be counted, then accept your lot, and stop complaining about it.
Bernice: my mother was never beaten by my father,he never ever raised a hand to her..where you got that impression,I have no clue.. You sit there...they made their bed,so lie in it...you have been there,you KNOW it isn't that easy..I also made the choice...if ya wanna kill me,kill me,GOTTA be better then THIS,for sure...HOW you can sit there tho after LIVING through it and KNOWING how they kill ANY self esteem you had...once apon a time and judge that it is the womans fault for staying is just beyond me
anastasia: my mum told me once that it took her 18 years to build up my self *** --sorry I read that wrong....I thought you were referring to your mother.......
My self esteem was never *killed* as you put it because I left the next morning.
**Once upon a time**...Im lost on this one - sorry.
I never said it was the womans fault for staying, i said you have to have strength (Intestinal fortitude)to leave. You know what is wrong and how to fix it therefore - fix it.
Im sorry you had to keep going through it *shrugs* did you leave? or are you still in an abusive relationship.
You havn't had your head cut off, but then that could be better than being there, forever
***edited for spelling mistakes*** when will we get a spell-check.?