Please keep things positive. Best advise I believe is to try out different sites. Find what works well for you. If you don't like it, don't go back and try another site. Nothing says you only have to play on 1 site. At one time, I played on about 6 different turn-based game sites.
KJ: I was on that site when it was being developed about 2 years ago, but I felt the owner attacked me. I normally don't try to talk bad about any sites - I just ignore them and leave them alone. But they allowed players to invite others to the site, and I invited 1 person - someone who probable does not even have 1 on-line person who thinks negatively towards them, and the owner of that site turned and attacked them also.... probable thinking they were also me or something.
I kept most of the messages during that time, and turned it into this webpage: http://coan.net/gd.html
I had first thought someone from here was telling the owner there that I was some sort of spy or something. But then the owner says something about being a spy from GT - a site at the time where I was just a normal user. I later got invited to help program at GT, but have since found I had no time to do that. Since then, I've heard of others who had similar experiences with the owner of that site, so who knows.......
All I know is I felt so personally attacked there, I've changed from my own advice and will occasionally talk bad about that site. Well I will post my side of the story, along with messages and let everyone else decide.