Marshmud: I like your reply full of respect (thank you !).
I totally agree with you when you say : " I have been asked "Why are you not joining my tournaments" so should I lie or tell them the truth ? " : of course, you have to tell the truth, I would do the same.
But you make me think to something : the player you are talking about (********) is in my fellowship and you also. If tomorrow, you tell me " I don't want to join your tournaments because he plays too slowly ", I must admit that it will be for me a moral dilemma ; on one side, I'd like to satisfy your request (because I appreciate you very much) and on the other side, it would be very difficult for me to punish someone who did nothing beyond the rules of the site.
Yes, you're right, I don't see you complaining (not to me, that's is sure ).
In fact, my reply wasn't about a particular player but a general thought about moves and time.