Pedro Martínez: ah! .. hmm 'decorum' .. i dont know a real english word for it (or it must be 'decorum' .. i wouldnt translate it as 'deftigheid' in this context .. although the dutch author did :)

'decorum' :

• acting according to tradition ?
  
• presenting one self according to what is expected ?
  
• old fashioned ?
  

i am glad i am not a translator .. i would always be lost in such nuances :)

maybe abigailII knows a better translation ?