Bernice: when you have someone..CONSTANTLY telling you that you are worthless,that nobody will EVER love you,that you will be nothing without him,that if you leave,he WILL find you and he WILL kill you...a person hears that for so long,they WILL start to believe it...top that with being hit for no other reason but that HE had a bad day,the constant put downs and belittling...my mum told me once that it took her 18 years to build up my self esteem and took him less then one year to completely destroy it.
It is VERY easy for you to sit there and say,oh,just leave,oh there are places to go....you know what happened to me Bernice one night when I did try to leave?? do you KNOW!? well,he caught me outside of our apartment,grabbed my head and slammed it repeatedly into a friggin wall untill I almost passed out...thats what happed the first time I tried to leave Bernice...he told me if I did it again,he would kill me...wanna know sometime..I believed he would do it to.
You can sit there and you can judge all you want to but untill you KNOW,untill you have been through it,do NOT judge that woman