Nothingness: I never get upset if they move fast unless its an unually low amount of time. such as 1 hour and they make 10 moves in a short time. then they go away, then,i go away. then when i come back game is over and i lose.,

Let me get this straight. You and your opponent play 10 moves in a short time, gaining some pool time. Then your opponent stays away for a while, but not long enough to time out. Your opponent moves, and then you stay away longer - and you time out. And that's your opponents fault?

when someone commits to that time limit they should make the effort to stay online and finish that game. if i play you in a game that you created with a 1 hour limit and bonus and you move 8x right way and i have no games going on i will go offline ( b/c i have no games to play now) then you come back and move then the next day i time out.

Eh? You go offline. So, it's you who isn't making the commitment. Don't blame your opponent if you decide to stay away till the next day if you're playing a time limit of 1 hour/move. And certainly don't accuse him of not making the commitment. If he doesn't time out, but you do, it's you who doesn't make the commitment.