Please keep things positive. Best advise I believe is to try out different sites. Find what works well for you. If you don't like it, don't go back and try another site. Nothing says you only have to play on 1 site. At one time, I played on about 6 different turn-based game sites.
coan.net: have you tried their dutch site, it has a lots of different games, my very favorite is rummy, and of course lost cities is on both sites, don't understand how they can have those 2 great card games and no other sites have them .they have lots of paying members so tourns. start daily, and sometimes 2x a day, and you never seem to play the same ppl. paying members can play in team games, like the team challenges here.