Artful Dodger: Here is an idea which might help: I set up tournaments typically with 2 days or so, but accumulating time up to 7 days. That means you need to make a move within two days in average, but if you play rather fast, you will accumulate 7 days of time, so if you have a business travel or such, you can let that run down.
The point is that you need to 'earn' that longer time by playing several moves faster than the limit of two days; you cannot use it for every move.
I think that should work ok, if everybody sets tourneys up that way. Maybe even 1 day per move, accumulating up to 7 days?

beach: I agree with what you wrote; these are games. However, some people are more competitive than others (and I'm in the first row here), and they can't help it when a player times out a lot of games. Not if he does against me - free BKR and wins - but if he does it in a difficult tournament: Imagine I squeeze a draw out of a strong player after a difficult game, which I'm proud of, and then he looses all other games on time. So the 'punishment' for me moving fast and playing well is that I get a draw, and all others get a 'win', so I'm one point behind in the competition. That has happened, and it does not go well with my mood... being less competitive would certainly ease the pain, but that's easier said than done - I am what I am.